It looks some Christians say,
They deny obeying to one of the more
difficult commandments
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CAROLINA ALFARO
It’s so complicated to accept the enclose sexuality by biblical precept, that do not obey had been the stone of stumbling for many people. Even for some, it has cost relevant position in the service to Jesus Christ. Mark Connelly, as example, principal pastor in one Christian community of Gilbert, Phoenix, Arizona, he has to give up to his position even he finished the 2013 due his marital infidelity with sister in Christ. He doesn’t have more choice than resign after many leaders of his own church discovered him having extramarital sexual relationships.
It’s so complicated to accept the enclose sexuality by biblical precept, that do not obey had been the stone of stumbling for many people. Even for some, it has cost relevant position in the service to Jesus Christ. Mark Connelly, as example, principal pastor in one Christian community of Gilbert, Phoenix, Arizona, he has to give up to his position even he finished the 2013 due his marital infidelity with sister in Christ. He doesn’t have more choice than resign after many leaders of his own church discovered him having extramarital sexual relationships.
Connelly did admit his sins and quit as a principal
pastor on December 30th. After that he was confronted by his fault,
also he was requested to leave the church. He is married with his wife Kay for
29 years and two sons: Lucas and Naomi. The ex principal pastor of the mission
of the community church, he had to bear the big embarrassment after some
members of the church found him cheating his wife and they asked him to quit
The Daily Mail informed.
To the no Christian, the sexuality is “delicious”. If
you have more sex it’s much better. The life flies so quick so there is
necessity to get satisfaction before the spring comes to run dry. The
philosopher Gianni Vattimo, quoting to the adultery, he says “The gospel never
didn’t take care of if one of us go to bed whit this one or to another. The
adultery? It has to see with historical institutions; it isn’t necessarily a
divine order. “Vattimo it looks like he did not read, Matthew 19: 18 “not
commit adultery”; Mark 10:19 “Do not commit adultery”; Luke 18:20 “do not
commit adultery”. Including in some debates , some pornography people defend
the right to fornicate when we want, even declaring that the sex is industry if
it make accessible to all and so on, it is one more job that it must be rented.
Do not fornicate
What part of this commandment is hard to understand?
Some days ago, I did meet with one foreign sister
that carries many years living in Argentina. She is middle age, entrepreneur,
separated without any divorce paper work; she is going to the Pentecostal
church since many years. Workaholic, she has a good reputation in the society where
she lives. The no Christian people know her as an honest and fighter woman.
Talking to her
at the middle of the chat, she commented that “The Lord” has given to her one
experience about so controversial theme as the sexuality. I was intrigued, more
cautious; I don’t want to go deepen about what kind of experiences the Lord has
gave to her. But it wasn’t necessary to ask. Later, she started to talk as if
was as confession that due her rebellion, she was going out with a no Christian
man who after several months, he dismissed her from his side and he didn’t want
to see her again. (Her words have a bitter taste when she recalled the episode).
After, she enclosed, she had another affair with a no
Christian man, till the end, the “Lord convinced her” that she must not to join
to unequally yoked with the no Christians. In conclusion, she had had sex with the husband before to separated him and
with two more, in less than a year. Anything amazing by the way, when we know
about people that had sex with any different person at least once per day as a
maximum or per week as a minimum.
In the meantime the good woman talks, I was
delivering occasionally comments. “That’s strong”, “thanks to God”, “It was
good that she understood”, “I had and have the same fight”, “It happen to me
the same” etc. The talk is seems to finish as one talk more that we use to have
daily. However in the same moment she revealed one significant detail: She said
that she is not willing to leave of having sex because she likes it and she
needs it. I did Hit upon to stammering in silly way: - Well, the Bible says
that the sex out of the marriages is……
She interrupted me asking: - Why one God of love
invented the sex and then forbidden it?
Everybody needs sex, including you. And without giving me time to think
about it, she added: - The sex is so good. God knows that we are in the flesh
therefore, having sex twice or three times per week it is reasonable. I don’t
think that the Lord sets objection. We can no go around with sex desire. God
will understand the necessity. And you know that very well, because long time
ago you do the same. (She reproached me with the past that every so often talks
and condemn).
Can we negotiate
the God’s commandment?
Many brothers think that the Christians live within
one parliamentary democracy of which authorities were choice by popular voting.
When the time arises, we can negotiate the divine commandments as we do with
trade union in between, with our nations authorities. Nothing else wrong.
We the Evangelic believe that we were bought by the
price of bloodshed by Jesus Christ in the Calvary’s cross. We are servant of
the Highest God. To obey is the rule. We live under the empire of one
Theocracy. But be careful, this divine Theocracy has thought commandments for
the humans that if we carry through, there’s no any violence neither injustice
above the earth. So that to pretend of having sex without any consequence being
Christians it isn’t acceptable to God.
If he said no, he ordered by any reason. We can’t go to the presence of
the Father shouting: God, let me fornicate in peace!
I spent years trying to understand this point. I
remembered the annoyance of my pastor Darrel Moran who tried to teach me in his
poor Spanish ------ about the goodness of having the sexuality within the
marriage and not out of it. But me, full of life and with the desire to enjoy
the pleasure of the feminine flesh, I don’t even negotiate with God. I was straight to disobey.
Until I lived in my own flesh the consequences of my
rebellions and with God’s piety and the Holy Spirit and who knows how may
intersections by Jesus Christ our lawyer, I get to accept one morning that the
Bible in this point, It has all the reason. We can’t fornicate with the God’s
blessing out of the marriage.
Having said that: If the readers want to fornicate, It
is their decision. But the Bible does not support any sex relationship out of
the marriage. It doesn’t mean, of course, we do what we can think are the best
and many of you will decide to have sex whoever you want. For sure, do not put the blame in God after
all the consequences. He had been so clear:
Do not fornicate and Paul had said: Run away from fornication. What else
do we need to convince us? Does God have to come in person to corroborate what
the scripture says? Well, in some moment Jesus Christ will come with all his
Glory.
But
I am so young and I want to have sex!
All right. The Bible says no and your flesh screams
yes. We just can repeat what the Bible declare and demand us. Then, it is in
your own in what to do or not to do. Each of us have a personal relationship
with Jesus Christ and you just know in your privacy if you want to obey or not,
if it is convenient or not, have sex with a woman and to enjoy for some moment.
To deal with
the sexuality of the believer exhaust some pastors.
Few times ago, one pastor was honest with me. “Every
time that someone talks to me about sex, I shiver. There’s no theme more
complicated that talk about sexuality inside the parameters that God demand us.
If I say no to everything I run the risk that I can be considered as
misogynistic or any kind of monster that see the sex as no natural. I can
either say yes to everything, because the Word of God is very clear in this
matter, the true is that I rather prefer to avoid the subject”.
Others, with the Bible in hand, faced the issue with
determination and then they left to the Holy Spirit works in the believer’s
hearts. But if the time goes and some of them continue transgressing in openly
way without any desire of change anything? The church will tolerate the
fornicate person when God doesn’t want to do it? Well, each pastor will know
how to act since the bible advice and support it. Sometimes there’s no way that
not be liked with the humans to be liked with God. Nobody say that will be easy
to serve. But the scripture support the argument, that the one with problem is
not the pastor or the brother who exhort but the one who denied obeying.
Now, you are
trying of being saint
Nobody is prophet in his land. Surely many of you
will be agree with that, convert, others remind you in sarcastic way your past.
Of course, the life is not simple for anybody and all of us have something that
work as shot to throw us once in a while. There’s neither tiger without lines
nor leopard without spot, right?
This is known by the not believer and every so often,
they recall you so clear in order to remember you the bad life that you lived. However,
the Bible says so very clear: “The one who is in Christ is new creature born
again and there’s no any damnation, to the one who is in Jesus Christ”.
What the Bible
says about fornication?
Exodus 34:15
Lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the
land, and they go a whoring after their gods, and do sacrifice unto their gods,
and one call thee, and thou eat of his sacrifice;
Leviticus 19:29
Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a
whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.
Hoseas 4:10
For they shall eat, and not have enough: they shall
commit whoredom, and shall not increase: because they have left off to take
heed to the Lord.
1 Corinthians 5:9
I
wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
1 Corinthians 5:11
But now I have written unto you not to keep company,
if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an
idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no
not to eat.
1 Corinthians 6:9
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit
the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor
adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
Hebrews 12:16
Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as
Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright. ( It is very clear that
God doesn’t have tact about fornication. Why does God ask us to abstain of
something that give us so pleasure? Paul says that, all the sins are made out
of the body, but the fornication affects the body of the human being the one
for the believer is the temple of the Holy Spirit).
To end, I am going to close with a summary’s written
of one blog woman called MeliR it says:
“The sex is a gift from God to give mutual joy to the marriage. It’s in the Bible, Proverbs 5:18,“Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”The romance and the divine gift of the sexuality are highest recommended within the marriage. It is in the Bible, Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”.God designated the sex as a part of the matrimonial relationship. It is in the Bible 1 Corinthians 7:5, “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”To not hurting each other, the sexual desires and activities must be put under Jesus Christ’s control. It is in the Bible 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God”.The seventh commandment forbids the adultery. It is in the Bible, Exodus 20:14 “Thou shalt not commit adultery.”The sexual sin is destructive, even when the effects don’t appear immediately. It is in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”How do start the sexual sin? It is in the Bible, Matthew 5: 28, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
The Bible is clear in the ordinance of not fornicate.
It is a serious error, as much as, is at the same level of not kill, not steal,
etc… So that the Christians cannot make up excuses to justify earlier sex or
out of the marriage. Even so, each Christian has the right to decide which
sexuality is convenient even if the Christian decide go the wrong way about
what the Scriptures say.
To the people who don’t believe, the sex is the best
thing invented by the nature therefore, the person who left the joy by being
obedient to a God that we cannot see and in which existence it is impossible to
show. They suffer mental problems due the excessive mysticism.
