OH GOD, LET ME FORNICATE IN PEACE!

It looks some Christians say,

They deny obeying to one of the more difficult commandments

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CAROLINA ALFARO

It’s so complicated to accept the enclose sexuality by biblical precept, that do not obey had been the stone of stumbling for many people. Even for some, it has cost relevant position in the service to Jesus Christ. Mark Connelly, as example, principal pastor in one Christian community of Gilbert, Phoenix, Arizona, he has to give up to his position even he finished the 2013 due his marital infidelity with sister in Christ. He doesn’t have more choice than resign after many leaders of his own church discovered him having extramarital sexual relationships.

Connelly did admit his sins and quit as a principal pastor on December 30^th. After that he was confronted by his fault, also he was requested to leave the church. He is married with his wife Kay for 29 years and two sons: Lucas and Naomi. The ex principal pastor of the mission of the community church, he had to bear the big embarrassment after some members of the church found him cheating his wife and they asked him to quit The Daily Mail informed.

To the no Christian, the sexuality is “delicious”. If you have more sex it’s much better. The life flies so quick so there is necessity to get satisfaction before the spring comes to run dry. The philosopher Gianni Vattimo, quoting to the adultery, he says “The gospel never didn’t take care of if one of us go to bed whit this one or to another. The adultery? It has to see with historical institutions; it isn’t necessarily a divine order. “Vattimo it looks like he did not read, Matthew 19: 18 “not commit adultery”; Mark 10:19 “Do not commit adultery”; Luke 18:20 “do not commit adultery”. Including in some debates , some pornography people defend the right to fornicate when we want, even declaring that the sex is industry if it make accessible to all and so on, it is one more job that it must be rented. 

Do not fornicate

What part of this commandment is hard to understand?

Some days ago, I did meet with one foreign sister that carries many years living in Argentina. She is middle age, entrepreneur, separated without any divorce paper work; she is going to the Pentecostal church since many years. Workaholic, she has a good reputation in the society where she lives. The no Christian people know her as an honest and fighter woman. 

 Talking to her at the middle of the chat, she commented that “The Lord” has given to her one experience about so controversial theme as the sexuality. I was intrigued, more cautious; I don’t want to go deepen about what kind of experiences the Lord has gave to her. But it wasn’t necessary to ask. Later, she started to talk as if was as confession that due her rebellion, she was going out with a no Christian man who after several months, he dismissed her from his side and he didn’t want to see her again. (Her words have a bitter taste when she recalled the episode).

After, she enclosed, she had another affair with a no Christian man, till the end, the “Lord convinced her” that she must not to join to unequally yoked with the no Christians. In conclusion, she had had sex  with the husband before to separated him and with two more, in less than a year. Anything amazing by the way, when we know about people that had sex with any different person at least once per day as a maximum or per week as a minimum.

In the meantime the good woman talks, I was delivering occasionally comments. “That’s strong”, “thanks to God”, “It was good that she understood”, “I had and have the same fight”, “It happen to me the same” etc. The talk is seems to finish as one talk more that we use to have daily. However in the same moment she revealed one significant detail: She said that she is not willing to leave of having sex because she likes it and she needs it. I did Hit upon to stammering in silly way: - Well, the Bible says that the sex out of the marriages is……

She interrupted me asking: - Why one God of love invented the sex and then forbidden it?  Everybody needs sex, including you. And without giving me time to think about it, she added: - The sex is so good. God knows that we are in the flesh therefore, having sex twice or three times per week it is reasonable. I don’t think that the Lord sets objection. We can no go around with sex desire. God will understand the necessity. And you know that very well, because long time ago you do the same. (She reproached me with the past that every so often talks and condemn).

Can we negotiate the God’s commandment?

Many brothers think that the Christians live within one parliamentary democracy of which authorities were choice by popular voting. When the time arises, we can negotiate the divine commandments as we do with trade union in between, with our nations authorities. Nothing else wrong. 

We the Evangelic believe that we were bought by the price of bloodshed by Jesus Christ in the Calvary’s cross. We are servant of the Highest God. To obey is the rule. We live under the empire of one Theocracy. But be careful, this divine Theocracy has thought commandments for the humans that if we carry through, there’s no any violence neither injustice above the earth. So that to pretend of having sex without any consequence being Christians it isn’t acceptable to God.  If he said no, he ordered by any reason. We can’t go to the presence of the Father shouting: God, let me fornicate in peace!

I spent years trying to understand this point. I remembered the annoyance of my pastor Darrel Moran who tried to teach me in his poor Spanish ------ about the goodness of having the sexuality within the marriage and not out of it. But me, full of life and with the desire to enjoy the pleasure of the feminine flesh, I don’t even negotiate with God. I was straight to disobey.

Until I lived in my own flesh the consequences of my rebellions and with God’s piety and the Holy Spirit and who knows how may intersections by Jesus Christ our lawyer, I get to accept one morning that the Bible in this point, It has all the reason. We can’t fornicate with the God’s blessing out of the marriage.  

Having said that: If the readers want to fornicate, It is their decision. But the Bible does not support any sex relationship out of the marriage. It doesn’t mean, of course, we do what we can think are the best and many of you will decide to have sex whoever you want.  For sure, do not put the blame in God after all the consequences. He had been so clear:  Do not fornicate and Paul had said: Run away from fornication. What else do we need to convince us? Does God have to come in person to corroborate what the scripture says? Well, in some moment Jesus Christ will come with all his Glory.    

But I am so young and I want to have sex!

All right. The Bible says no and your flesh screams yes. We just can repeat what the Bible declare and demand us. Then, it is in your own in what to do or not to do. Each of us have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and you just know in your privacy if you want to obey or not, if it is convenient or not, have sex with a woman and to enjoy for some moment.

  

To deal with the sexuality of the believer exhaust some pastors.

Few times ago, one pastor was honest with me. “Every time that someone talks to me about sex, I shiver. There’s no theme more complicated that talk about sexuality inside the parameters that God demand us. If I say no to everything I run the risk that I can be considered as misogynistic or any kind of monster that see the sex as no natural. I can either say yes to everything, because the Word of God is very clear in this matter, the true is that I rather prefer to avoid the subject”. 

  

Others, with the Bible in hand, faced the issue with determination and then they left to the Holy Spirit works in the believer’s hearts. But if the time goes and some of them continue transgressing in openly way without any desire of change anything? The church will tolerate the fornicate person when God doesn’t want to do it? Well, each pastor will know how to act since the bible advice and support it. Sometimes there’s no way that not be liked with the humans to be liked with God. Nobody say that will be easy to serve. But the scripture support the argument, that the one with problem is not the pastor or the brother who exhort but the one who denied obeying.

Now, you are trying of being saint

Nobody is prophet in his land. Surely many of you will be agree with that, convert, others remind you in sarcastic way your past. Of course, the life is not simple for anybody and all of us have something that work as shot to throw us once in a while. There’s neither tiger without lines nor leopard without spot, right?

This is known by the not believer and every so often, they recall you so clear in order to remember you the bad life that you lived. However, the Bible says so very clear: “The one who is in Christ is new creature born again and there’s no any damnation, to the one who is in Jesus Christ”.

  

What the Bible says about fornication?

Exodus 34:15

Lest thou make a covenant with the inhabitants of the land, and they go a whoring after their gods, and do sacrifice unto their gods, and one call thee, and thou eat of his sacrifice;

Leviticus 19:29

Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness.

Hoseas 4:10

For they shall eat, and not have enough: they shall commit whoredom, and shall not increase: because they have left off to take heed to the Lord.

1 Corinthians  5:9

 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:

1 Corinthians  5:11

But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

1 Corinthians 6:9

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

Hebrews 12:16

Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright. ( It is very clear that God doesn’t have tact about fornication. Why does God ask us to abstain of something that give us so pleasure? Paul says that, all the sins are made out of the body, but the fornication affects the body of the human being the one for the believer is the temple of the Holy Spirit).

To end, I am going to close with a summary’s written of one blog woman called MeliR it says:

“The sex is a gift from God to give mutual joy to the marriage. It’s in the Bible, Proverbs 5:18,

“Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”

The romance and the divine gift of the sexuality are highest recommended within the marriage. It is in the Bible, Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”.

God designated the sex as a part of the matrimonial relationship. It is in the Bible 1 Corinthians 7:5, “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”

To not hurting each other, the sexual desires and activities must be put under Jesus Christ’s control. It is in the Bible 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God”.

The seventh commandment forbids the adultery. It is in the Bible, Exodus 20:14 “Thou shalt not commit adultery.”

The sexual sin is destructive, even when the effects don’t appear immediately. It is in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

How do start the sexual sin? It is in the Bible, Matthew 5: 28, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”

The Bible is clear in the ordinance of not fornicate. It is a serious error, as much as, is at the same level of not kill, not steal, etc… So that the Christians cannot make up excuses to justify earlier sex or out of the marriage. Even so, each Christian has the right to decide which sexuality is convenient even if the Christian decide go the wrong way about what the Scriptures say.

To the people who don’t believe, the sex is the best thing invented by the nature therefore, the person who left the joy by being obedient to a God that we cannot see and in which existence it is impossible to show. They suffer mental problems due the excessive mysticism.